A Dominatrix and a Gentle Femdom (GFD) have different Domination styles and character, but they are both Femdoms. A Dominatrix is considered a Hard Femdom and a GFD is considered a Soft Femdom – therefore they are at opposite ends of the Domination spectrum. This doesn’t mean that they don’t do the same play, but the differences are evident in they way they approach the same scenario, as below.   When you’re in a spiked chastity cage and you can’t help crying a little: Dominatrix: Are those fucking tears? Suck it up, bitch, or I’ll cane your balls and give

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I still find people, especially heterosexual men, who don’t quite understand what being heteroflexible, bisexual and gay is. So I’m going to tell you. If a heterosexual man sucks cock, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man gets pegged, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man has a threesome with a woman and another man, that does not make him gay. So what makes a man gay? When a man is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to a man. The key word here is ‘attracted’. Attraction is desire. Gay men have sexual desires and

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Do you want to be seen as pathetic by your Domme? Being the grovelling sub who leaves his dignity at the door? If you do, don’t expect to ever have sex with your Dominant Woman. Women don’t have sex with men they see as pathetic. I know many Dommes who own pathetic slaves. They love having them because it is easier to be cruel to a pathetic man. (It is because they feel powerful by being mean, but aren’t real sadists. A real sadist like me will want to hurt subs, no matter attraction, but especially if she is attracted

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Ok, teaching time… I don’t think a lot totally understand what a sex slave is… So, here’s the low down: The Sex Part To be a sex slave, you have to be good at sex. Like, amazing. You have to have had lots of sex with lots of different partners, and know your way around a woman’s body. You have to be good with your cock, your mouth and your hands. It’s not just about doing what you are told to do… You have to be proactive and innovative… Your energy and drive needs to be Alpha… You need to

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So, you want your ass to be ravaged? Well, this is a real world, no bullshit, reality: I’m in the big leagues. I use pegs that are too heavy for my strapon that I have to hold them up with two hands. Don’t be fooled by my pegs in pictures. Most are 20cm, and they are used for hardcore banging. I’m definitely an Extreme Queen – go big or go home. I have many years experience with hundreds of partners. However, I am also a beginner specialist. Firstly, if you don’t already play with your ass, especially when you masturbate,

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We are always talking about subs – their desires, their wants, their needs. We talk about their subspace. And, we talk about their subdrop. Ufff! Did you know that Dommes can drop just as heavy, or even further than subs? It is not only subs who have an emotional or physical experience during and after a session. Dom/mes do too. We put in as much physical and emotional effort as our subs, and most often, even more because we are the ones that are carrying the action and the mood. Yes, we most certainly can experience Dommespace. And… likewise, Dommedrop.

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I get a lot of guys wanting to be humiliated but they don’t know what the fuck they are asking from me. I’m a sadist, I want to destroy you. That means I will humiliate you beyond your comfort zone. I do it to take our dynamic to the edge and so you can practice holding onto your dignity with all you’ve got. To define (as many don’t understand the differences): • Embarrassment makes you feel uneasy and self-conscious for a moment. You can laugh it off. • Humiliation impacts your pride. You feel hurt and shame. You fight against

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Below are only basic descriptions of each category of Domme. It is important to remember, there is no one way to be a Domme. In fact, a lot of women practice Pro-Domme and Lifestyle Domme at the same time. However, there is a distinct division between male fantasy and real Femdom. Professional Dommes Pro-Domme is an umbrella term that describes the women who receive money from domination. They are technically in the role of Service Top, not Dominants. They provide a service-based experience tailored for their client. This is business; play-for-pay; money is the driver; and customer satisfaction is essential

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A kink is a non-conventional sexual behaviour or practice, preference or fantasy, such as group sex and swinging, anal play, and furry or medical role-play. A fetish is a sexual interest in an object or body part.  BDSM is an umbrella acronym for specific non-conventional practices that are considered taboo by society. Simply, BDSM is Bondage, Discipline, Sadism-masochism and Domination/submission (D/s): Bondage means any type of restraint – usually physical but can also be mental. Discipline means a rule and punishment system, usually within a power dynamic. Sadism means deriving pleasure, often sexual arousal, from the pain and suffering of

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