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How To Train Your Gentlemen

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It is common talk among women today about the lack of gentlemanship among men. ‘Where are the gentlemen?’ they ask. ‘In the old days, men knew how to treat a woman, talk to a woman and take care of her. In the old days, there was chivalry… ‘ and they go on and on about how they want a ‘Mr Knightly or Mr Darcy’. But there is one thing these women don’t know about the old days… In the old days, a gentleman was not naturally chivalrous or charming or sophisticated… He was not inherently manly and stylish, dutiful or

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Dominant, Not Domineering

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Every woman’s dominance is different. The problem is, many subs have an expectation of what women’s dominance is supposed to look like – aggressive and mean. Hm. There is a difference between a dominant woman and a domineering woman… and some are confusing the two. A domineering woman is bossy. She’s the one that barks orders and speaks condescendingly. She’s overpowering. Everything has to be about her. She’s a dictator. If you want that, then go for it… but she is NOT a dominant woman. A dominant woman has an inner power that evokes respect, no matter her natural disposition.

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How Men Have Created Femdom

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So, You Want To Worship? I train some of my friends who are new to Femdom. We talk more about Femdom philosophy, and the perspective of a Femdom, more than activities and play. So, below is a perspective of Mine about how to gain more control of your Femdom. However, my reader in this writing is a man. Women are not dumb. We know that a lot of Femdom has been created by men for men. Men have developed roles, types, and activities to satisfy themselves, calling it Femdom, even though it is not. But it is not all their

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Professional Dominatrix VS a Non-Pro Lifestyle Domme

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I am both a Professional Dominatrix and a Lifestyle Domme. That means I have a ProDomme Business and I enjoy Femdom as a lifestyle. The two work together perfectly, however, many people do not understand the division between Professional and non-Professional. Here is the lowdown so you can understand the difference between Pro and Lifestyle… and why it’s hard to get a Lifestyle Domme. Professional Domme For Professional Domination, I have a professional D/s relationship with clients. I provide an experienced-base service for a fee, called Tribute. Clients tell me what they want to experience, and I design a session

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Why Do Men See A Dominatrix?

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Well, the overarching reason is: Because they can. When men are younger, paying for it damages their pride. When men are older, logic and reason creeps in. They wise up. It is a fallacy to think that only men who can’t get a woman go to see a professional. It is quite the opposite. Seeing a professional isn’t just on a whim for them, they have usually looked at their life and decided what they want. It is a very rational choice. The main reasons I’ve discovered why men see a Dominatrix are: 1. They don’t want the ‘hassle’ of

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Dommedrop and Aftercare

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We are always talking about subs – their desires, their wants, their needs. We talk about their subspace. And, we talk about their subdrop. Ufff! Did you know that Dommes can drop just as heavy, or even further than subs? It is not only subs who have an emotional or physical experience during and after a session. Dom/mes do too. We put in as much physical and emotional effort as our subs, and most often, even more because we are the ones that are carrying the action and the mood. Yes, we most certainly can experience Dommespace. And… likewise, Dommedrop.

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You sure you want humiliation…?

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I get a lot of guys wanting to be humiliated but they don’t know what the fuck they are asking from me. I’m a sadist, I want to destroy you. That means I will humiliate you beyond your comfort zone. I do it to take our dynamic to the edge and so you can practice holding onto your dignity with all you’ve got. To define (as many don’t understand the differences): • Embarrassment makes you feel uneasy and self-conscious for a moment. You can laugh it off. • Humiliation impacts your pride. You feel hurt and shame. You fight against

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The Difference Between a Pro-Domme and a Lifestyle Domme

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Below are only basic descriptions of each category of Domme. It is important to remember, there is no one way to be a Domme. In fact, a lot of women practice Pro-Domme and Lifestyle Domme at the same time. However, there is a distinct division between male fantasy and real Femdom. Professional Dommes Pro-Domme is an umbrella term that describes the women who receive money from domination. They are technically in the role of Service Top, not Dominants. They provide a service-based experience tailored for their client. This is business; play-for-pay; money is the driver; and customer satisfaction is essential

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Kink vs BDSM

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A kink is a non-conventional sexual behaviour or practice, preference or fantasy, such as group sex and swinging, anal play, and furry or medical role-play. A fetish is a sexual interest in an object or body part.  BDSM is an umbrella acronym for specific non-conventional practices that are considered taboo by society. Simply, BDSM is Bondage, Discipline, Sadism-masochism and Domination/submission (D/s): Bondage means any type of restraint – usually physical but can also be mental. Discipline means a rule and punishment system, usually within a power dynamic. Sadism means deriving pleasure, often sexual arousal, from the pain and suffering of

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Tribute

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Tribute is the term used by Dominatrices for payment. The word creates an atmosphere and orientates potential clients to the world of Domination. It has become the norm to call any payment for Domination services, Tribute (to take the edge off paying for ‘taboo services’). Because of this generic use, the word has lost its power and significance. It has even become a bad word, but not in the good sense. For Traditional Dominatrices, a Tribute is an offering. It is considered a gift from a potential submissive to express readiness to serve, and is presented upon initial contact. Tributes

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