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What Makes You Gay

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I still find people, especially heterosexual men, who don’t quite understand what being heteroflexible, bisexual and gay is. So I’m going to tell you. If a heterosexual man sucks cock, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man gets pegged, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man has a threesome with a woman and another man, that does not make him gay. So what makes a man gay? When a man is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to a man. The key word here is ‘attracted’. Attraction is desire. Gay men have sexual desires and

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BDSM Clubs in Madrid

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The truth is, the Madrid BDSM scene is still quite underdeveloped. It is largely due to the previous generation of politics, old cultural values, and lack of information. However, the people are hungry for knowledge and exploration. The level of practice all round is quite basic and often more focused on sex. High Protocol events are unusual and clubs don’t follow general international BDSM protocol, (such as not entering a play scene or cleaning furniture after your play has ended). Interestingly, there is a spilt in the scene between the Old School/Classic and the New Wave/Gen BDSM, and this is evident

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BDSM Humiliation and Erotic Degradation

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BDSM shot Emotional Masochist Kink • Embarrassment makes you feel uneasy and self-conscious for a moment. You can laugh it off. • Humiliation impacts your pride. You feel hurt and shame. You fight against it. • Degradation impacts your value as a human being. You feel inferior, defeated and powerless. You give up. For more, click to You Sure You Want Humiliation?

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Male Orgasm

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BDSM shot Did you know there are three different ways a man can orgasm? The Standard Orgasm – stimulation of the cock to ejaculation. This can be done externally via masturbation (hand jobs, vibrators, slaps, fleshlight) or internally via penetration (pussy, ass, mouth). The Immaculate Orgasm – stimulation of the body to ejaculation, without cock stimulation. This can be done through kissing, nipple play, pain, etc, and especially ass penetration. Many have experienced Immaculate Orgasms as a ‘wet dream’. The Assgasm – stimulation of the anus, rectum, or prostate to assgasm (anal orgasm). This can be done through anal sex,

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Erotic Pleasure

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BDSM shot What is erotic? Erotic does not mean sex, but sexual desire and arousal. Through words and images, Erotica conjures feelings of passion, titillation and thrill using suggestion and implicity. It is considered soft-core as opposed to hard-core and explicit sex. Erotica is more for refined palettes, indulging in pleasure and seduction.

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Professional Erotic Sessions

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All I know is that I’m a real Dominatrix. My intentions for professional sessions are usually quite different from most ProDommes… I want erotic pleasure. A lot of people think there is a big difference between a private session and a professional session, somehow as if the private session is better because real feelings are involved. I guess they’ve never gone to see a Dominatrix like Me before. Doing business for Me doesn’t diminish My erotic feelings. I feel just as much in my professional sessions as my private, and often even more because I am encouraged and inspired by

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Dominant or Primal

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BDSM shot What makes a man dominant in the bedroom? Most men think they are dominant in the bedroom, but they are not. They are being Primal. They let go to the moment with aggression and force, thinking that this is an expression of dominance. No. Being Dominant is about keeping control. Being Primal is about losing it. A man is Dominant when he is in control of himself; he lets go of the moment while being in control. It’s the paradox of masculine sensuality. 

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Sessions in Everyday Spaces

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Even though dungeons and specialist equipment can be fun, they are not needed for organic play or Domination, and they are especially not needed if the Dominatrix is creative and innovative. Thus, I prefer to session in everyday settings – apartments, hotels, nature – to be flexible, to focus on natural Domination and dynamic, and to challenge myself. I have been sessioning in everyday spaces for over ten years in different countries. I’ve sessioned in 5-star hotels in major cities to cabins above the Arctic Circle. I’ve sessioned on isolated islands were nature provided the tools for torture, in a

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Why do I always use *him* to describe a sub?

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I’m pansexual. I can be attracted to anyone with an ass. I’m proudly part of the LGBTQ+ community and I respect the changes in our vanilla language to recognise, value and cherish everyone. But there is a clear reason for Me personally as to why I always use “him” in BDSM and Femdom to describe a submissive. Language reversal. Even though I support gender equality, which includes the recognition and use of appropriate pronouns, in My own Femdom language, which I am consciously and continually constructing, especially with text, I want to drill home that men, all men, are fully

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