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Oral Sex For Her Pleasure

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Are you practicing your pussy licking? And no, you don’t need a pussy to do it. Too often men are very bad at cunnilingus because they haven’t had enough practice. For some silly reason men think that if they really like something, they will be good at it. No. According to a BadGirlBible survey, for a lot of women, in fact 79.4%, have had at least one bad experience, and 55.9% said they were unsatisfied with it because of their partner’s bad technique. Yet, 90% say they still enjoy it no matter the bad experiences and technique… I guess they

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Cock Cage Kink: the good, the bad and the ugly

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There are many different reasons for a Femdom to use a cock cage, but they all boil down to: power and control. Cock caging is part of the Chastity kink. Chastity is about abstaining from sexual activity and physical stimulation. Cock caging is about physical restriction for Chastity, but there is also psychological abstinence based on agreements, trust, blackmail, etc. Cock caging is often used as a punishment or to correct behaviour, but also as a form of ownership or enslavement by the Dominant or Keyholder. The cage is meant to be a painful experience both physically and emotionally, especially

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Double Domming

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Several years ago I put up a personals ad asking for a masochist for a double Domme session. I was so up for this. The plan was to have an impact training session, and it still was, but… I wanted more… I needed to fuck. It was easy to select our sub… he was first. And, he was eager in a perfectly non-needy way, diligent, followed instructions well and easy to arrange the session with. He was the perfect example of a dream session sub. And, I wanted to fuck him. Yes, I was up for it no matter what…

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Professional Erotic Sessions

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All I know is that I’m a real Dominatrix. My intentions for professional sessions are usually quite different from most ProDommes… I want erotic pleasure. A lot of people think there is a big difference between a private session and a professional session, somehow as if the private session is better because real feelings are involved. I guess they’ve never gone to see a Dominatrix like Me before. Doing business for Me doesn’t diminish My erotic feelings. I feel just as much in my professional sessions as my private, and often even more because I am encouraged and inspired by

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Let Your Mistress Shine

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Being too good a submissive can backfire. Your energy and your enthusiasm, your submissive extravagance, can be overwhelming, even intimidating for your Mistress. Thus, you want to allow your submission to be regulated and balanced by your Mistress. SUBMISSION MASTERCLASS At the beginning, even before a Femdom relationship has started, a sub can be overly enthusiastic with his devotion and expression of submission. You might think you need to impress your potential Mistress with your pure intensions and ability to surrender. Instead, however, your energy could be the very thing that is pushing your Mistress away. You may think you

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Extreme and Consensual

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I invited him over – the pro Crossfit athlete – just because a girl has needs. It was about 3am when he arrived. A little older than my usual, but his eagerness was giving him credit. (A lot of men try to lead the situation, and when they see I’m not going with it, they think they have to be more Dominant than me by being more aggressive. Ugh.) I had orgasmed in the first five minutes and was allowing him to finish… but he was taking some time. I started to get suspicious – some boys like to indulge

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The Age Old Question: Why can’t I keep a sub around longer than six months?

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I have quite some experience in BDSM and D/s relationships, and over the years my Domina friends have asked me for advice. As such, I became a mentor and teacher for them, sharing my insights, experience and observations to help them on their own journey. This is an example of what to expect from the Femdom Masterclass. FEMDOM MASTERCLASS I have Domina friends in different countries who get frustrated because they can’t keep a sub longer than six months. At the beginning, the sub is all in, then he starts to slacken off, then he starts to retreat, and eventually

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Sessions in Everyday Spaces

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Even though dungeons and specialist equipment can be fun, they are not needed for organic play or Domination, and they are especially not needed if the Dominatrix is creative and innovative. Thus, I prefer to session in everyday settings – apartments, hotels, nature – to be flexible, to focus on natural Domination and dynamic, and to challenge myself. I have been sessioning in everyday spaces for over ten years in different countries. I’ve sessioned in 5-star hotels in major cities to cabins above the Arctic Circle. I’ve sessioned on isolated islands were nature provided the tools for torture, in a

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Why do I always use *him* to describe a sub?

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I’m pansexual. I can be attracted to anyone with an ass. I’m proudly part of the LGBTQ+ community and I respect the changes in our vanilla language to recognise, value and cherish everyone. But there is a clear reason for Me personally as to why I always use him in BDSM and Femdom to describe a submissive. Language reversal. Even though I support gender equality, which includes the recognition and use of appropriate pronouns, in My own Femdom language, which I am consciously and continually constructing, especially with text, I want to drill home that men, all men, are fully

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