I’m pansexual. I can be attracted to anyone with an ass. I’m proudly part of the LGBTQ+ community and I respect the changes in our vanilla language to recognise, value and cherish everyone. But there is a clear reason for Me personally as to why I always use him in BDSM and Femdom to describe a submissive.
Language reversal.
Even though I support gender equality, which includes the recognition and use of appropriate pronouns, in My own Femdom language, which I am consciously and continually constructing, especially with text, I want to drill home that men, all men, are fully capable of submission. I’m on a personal mission to create awareness and raise the value of male submission, which in turn, puts a spotlight on and raises the value of Female Domination. As such, I am very careful not to present anything other than male as submissive.
I don’t want feminine qualities to be seen as submissive and masculine qualities to be seen as Dominant. I want to change the idea that Femdoms are just women acting like ‘dominant men’ – aggressive, forceful, controlling – (a dominant man is actually not such, but as people are confusing dominant with primal these days, I have to use their level of understanding to explain things). Female Dominance is nothing of the sort. It is its own feminine power, with its own qualities. And, with all the chaotic vanilla talk these days about ‘feminine energy’ and ‘masculine energy’, it is important that feminine dominance isn’t sucked into that hole.
So, I plan to keep on using him in BDSM and Femdom as long as it serves My purpose.I submit everyone. I describe a submissive as male collectively in language. But of course, when I’m with a woman, trans or otherwise, or NB, I refer correctly to the individual, unless our dynamic dictates otherwise.I submit everyone. I describe a submissive as male collectively in language. But of course, when I’m with a woman, trans or otherwise, or NB, I refer correctly to the individual, unless our dynamic dictates otherwise.
This is certainly not to say that I don’t have all genders as submissives – I submit everyone. I describe a submissive as male collectively in language. But of course, when I’m with a woman, trans or otherwise, or NB, I refer correctly to the individual, unless our dynamic dictates otherwise.