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What Makes You Gay

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I still find people, especially heterosexual men, who don’t quite understand what being heteroflexible, bisexual and gay is. So I’m going to tell you. If a heterosexual man sucks cock, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man gets pegged, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man has a threesome with a woman and another man, that does not make him gay. So what makes a man gay? When a man is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to a man. The key word here is ‘attracted’. Attraction is desire. Gay men have sexual desires and

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BDSM Clubs in Madrid

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The truth is, the Madrid BDSM scene is still quite underdeveloped. It is largely due to the previous generation of politics, old cultural values, and lack of information. However, the people are hungry for knowledge and exploration. The level of practice all round is quite basic and often more focused on sex. High Protocol events are unusual and clubs don’t follow general international BDSM protocol, (such as not entering a play scene or cleaning furniture after your play has ended). Interestingly, there is a spilt in the scene between the Old School/Classic and the New Wave/Gen BDSM, and this is evident

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Oral Sex For Her Pleasure

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Are you practicing your pussy licking? And no, you don’t need a pussy to do it. Too often men are very bad at cunnilingus because they haven’t had enough practice. For some silly reason men think that if they really like something, they will be good at it. No. According to a BadGirlBible survey, for a lot of women, in fact 79.4%, have had at least one bad experience, and 55.9% said they were unsatisfied with it because of their partner’s bad technique. Yet, 90% say they still enjoy it no matter the bad experiences and technique… I guess they

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Cock Cage Kink: the good, the bad and the ugly

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There are many different reasons for a Femdom to use a cock cage, but they all boil down to: power and control. Cock caging is part of the Chastity kink. Chastity is about abstaining from sexual activity and physical stimulation. Cock caging is about physical restriction for Chastity, but there is also psychological abstinence based on agreements, trust, blackmail, etc. Cock caging is often used as a punishment or to correct behaviour, but also as a form of ownership or enslavement by the Dominant or Keyholder. The cage is meant to be a painful experience both physically and emotionally, especially

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BDSM Humiliation and Erotic Degradation

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BDSM shot Emotional Masochist Kink • Embarrassment makes you feel uneasy and self-conscious for a moment. You can laugh it off. • Humiliation impacts your pride. You feel hurt and shame. You fight against it. • Degradation impacts your value as a human being. You feel inferior, defeated and powerless. You give up. For more, click to You Sure You Want Humiliation?

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Male Orgasm

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BDSM shot Did you know there are three different ways a man can orgasm? The Standard Orgasm – stimulation of the cock to ejaculation. This can be done externally via masturbation (hand jobs, vibrators, slaps, fleshlight) or internally via penetration (pussy, ass, mouth). The Immaculate Orgasm – stimulation of the body to ejaculation, without cock stimulation. This can be done through kissing, nipple play, pain, etc, and especially ass penetration. Many have experienced Immaculate Orgasms as a ‘wet dream’. The Assgasm – stimulation of the anus, rectum, or prostate to assgasm (anal orgasm). This can be done through anal sex,

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Double Domming

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Several years ago I put up a personals ad asking for a masochist for a double Domme session. I was so up for this. The plan was to have an impact training session, and it still was, but… I wanted more… I needed to fuck. It was easy to select our sub… he was first. And, he was eager in a perfectly non-needy way, diligent, followed instructions well and easy to arrange the session with. He was the perfect example of a dream session sub. And, I wanted to fuck him. Yes, I was up for it no matter what…

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Erotic Pleasure

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BDSM shot What is erotic? Erotic does not mean sex, but sexual desire and arousal. Through words and images, Erotica conjures feelings of passion, titillation and thrill using suggestion and implicity. It is considered soft-core as opposed to hard-core and explicit sex. Erotica is more for refined palettes, indulging in pleasure and seduction.

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Professional Erotic Sessions

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All I know is that I’m a real Dominatrix. My intentions for professional sessions are usually quite different from most ProDommes… I want erotic pleasure. A lot of people think there is a big difference between a private session and a professional session, somehow as if the private session is better because real feelings are involved. I guess they’ve never gone to see a Dominatrix like Me before. Doing business for Me doesn’t diminish My erotic feelings. I feel just as much in my professional sessions as my private, and often even more because I am encouraged and inspired by

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Dominant or Primal

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BDSM shot What makes a man dominant in the bedroom? Most men think they are dominant in the bedroom, but they are not. They are being Primal. They let go to the moment with aggression and force, thinking that this is an expression of dominance. No. Being Dominant is about keeping control. Being Primal is about losing it. A man is Dominant when he is in control of himself; he lets go of the moment while being in control. It’s the paradox of masculine sensuality.