Author: Racy Wilde

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You sure you want humiliation…?

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I get a lot of guys wanting to be humiliated but they don’t know what the fuck they are asking from me. I’m a sadist, I want to destroy you. That means I will humiliate you beyond your comfort zone. I do it to take our dynamic to the edge and so you can practice holding onto your dignity with all you’ve got. To define (as many don’t understand the differences): • Embarrassment makes you feel uneasy and self-conscious for a moment. You can laugh it off. • Humiliation impacts your pride. You feel hurt and shame. You fight against

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The Difference Between a Pro-Domme and a Lifestyle Domme

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Below are only basic descriptions of each category of Domme. It is important to remember, there is no one way to be a Domme. In fact, a lot of women practice Pro-Domme and Lifestyle Domme at the same time. However, there is a distinct division between male fantasy and real Femdom. Professional Dommes Pro-Domme is an umbrella term that describes the women who receive money from domination. They are technically in the role of Service Top, not Dominants. They provide a service-based experience tailored for their client. This is business; play-for-pay; money is the driver; and customer satisfaction is essential

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Kink vs BDSM

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A kink is a non-conventional sexual behaviour or practice, preference or fantasy, such as group sex and swinging, anal play, and furry or medical role-play. A fetish is a sexual interest in an object or body part.  BDSM is an umbrella acronym for specific non-conventional practices that are considered taboo by society. Simply, BDSM is Bondage, Discipline, Sadism-masochism and Domination/submission (D/s): Bondage means any type of restraint – usually physical but can also be mental. Discipline means a rule and punishment system, usually within a power dynamic. Sadism means deriving pleasure, often sexual arousal, from the pain and suffering of

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Tribute

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Tribute is the term used by Dominatrices for payment. The word creates an atmosphere and orientates potential clients to the world of Domination. It has become the norm to call any payment for Domination services, Tribute (to take the edge off paying for ‘taboo services’). Because of this generic use, the word has lost its power and significance. It has even become a bad word, but not in the good sense. For Traditional Dominatrices, a Tribute is an offering. It is considered a gift from a potential submissive to express readiness to serve, and is presented upon initial contact. Tributes

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Anal Training for Complete Beginners

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This piece is dedicated to all the subs who want me to train their ass. There are no hard and fast rules on anal training – every ass, every man and every situation is different. The best you can do is listen to your body and make informed choices for your own training. I have had good experience with many different men, but I am in no way an authority. I am not a medical practitioner. The information I’m providing is from my own learning and practice with male subs. This is just a guide to inspire you on your

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The Pizza Boy

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I was editing a porn video at a Domme friend’s place when I got his text at 1am. He was suffering from the ‘no touching’ stipulation I had put on him. Not coming for a few days, then going out drinking on a Saturday night and not being able to take anyone home, was taking its toll on him. Haha! But I didn’t care. I wanted what I wanted – a big load – and he was going to give it to me or pay the price of failure. The next day, the smells of the city street were making

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Beautiful Weakness

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When I whisper in a new sub’s ear, ‘I want you to fuck me,’ they are faced with a dilemma. Do they fuck me like a ‘man’ or a sub. I never tell them what I want, what would be the fun in that? So, they have to decide how they are going to do it… And I most certainly make it hard for them. To fuck like a ‘man’ I mean stereotypically, as in a vanilla encounter. This means the man is the lead, or Top in BDSM. He is the active person and the woman is passive. But

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Corrupting Van Helsing

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I met the young Van Helsing at the train station. A meek Dutch boy, he was casually leaning against the railing waiting for me. I recognised him straight away but he only knew it was me when I bounded up and gave a quick hug. Meet-and-greets in public places have always been awkward for me, I prefer to take my men straight to the bedroom. The bohemian, lightly-bearded boy, fifteen years my younger, took me to a great little Mexican street cafe for lunch. We talked on many topics – the boy was an intellectualist, which I loved – but

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Puppy Love

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I don’t do relationships or commitment, but one time I fell for a puppy. Of course, he wasn’t just a puppy… he had other amazing talents that would, quite frankly, make me blush. What can I say, I am weak when it comes to anal sluts. One time I took him with me to London for a fetish weekender. I wanted to make the most of him so it took a few months to organise the trip. I’m not talking hotels and travel, but arrangements with other kinky people. To pull together a fantasy trip, I need to check who’s in town,

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Swinging Cats

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O.M.F.G…. What an experience. It is rare to be with a man that makes me feel so feminine just standing next to him. This guy is everything you’d think a male centrefold would be. A lot of boys tell me they are cute or handsome… and I’ve been with enough of them to always take their opinions with a pinch of salt. But this boy…? When I first saw him, I so badly wanted to slap the prettiness off his face but I’m not sure I’d even make a dent. The crazy thing is, I didn’t know just how pretty

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