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Mistress Travelling To New York City

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At the end of March to mid-April, I will be in New York, offering Exclusive Sessions for locals and visitors to the city. New York is an electrifying city that never sleeps, where every desire can be indulged, so I am rather excited to visit and experience what the city has on offer. I am available for pure sessions either in hotel rooms or dungeons, or secret public sessions (kinky tours through the city), being a companion to clubs and events, and open to receiving services such as chauffeur, food deliverer, shopping spree, city apartment ‘airbnb trade’ (where you move out

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Why Professional Femdom Is Appealing

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The interest in seeing a Professional Femdom can vary widely among individuals. Some appreciate the ‘no strings’, the anonymity, the proficient BDSM skills, and others, the professionalism. Which Femdom one sees largely depends not only on individual preferences and desires of the person, but also the attraction they have to the personality of a Femdom. Naturally, different people are drawn to different Femdom traits, but also, they are drawn to different personality traits of a particular Femdom. Here are some common reasons why someone might be interested in Femdom: Power Dynamics (and Role Reversal)Some people find excitement in exploring power

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Feeling Guilty About Seeing A Dominatrix?

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Ok, let’s get serious. There are many reasons why someone might feel guilty about seeing a Dominatrix. The most common reasons are they have a partner who doesn’t know, or it conflicts with their social identity, that investing in carnal pleasure is a ‘sin’ and means you are not a ‘respectable’ man. I have played with over 3000 people and have had conversations with tens of thousands more, many of which have had these concerns. The best way to know if BDSM and Domination with a Professional Dominatrix is for you is to make informed decisions that sustains your conscience.

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What Makes You Gay

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I still find people, especially heterosexual men, who don’t quite understand what being heteroflexible, bisexual and gay is. So I’m going to tell you. If a heterosexual man sucks cock, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man gets pegged, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man has a threesome with a woman and another man, that does not make him gay. So what makes a man gay? When a man is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to a man. The key word here is ‘attracted’. Attraction is desire. Gay men have sexual desires and

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BDSM Clubs in Madrid

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The truth is, the Madrid BDSM scene is still quite underdeveloped. It is largely due to the previous generation of politics, old cultural values, and lack of information. However, the people are hungry for knowledge and exploration. The level of practice all round is quite basic and often more focused on sex. High Protocol events are unusual and clubs don’t follow general international BDSM protocol, (such as not entering a play scene or cleaning furniture after your play has ended). Interestingly, there is a spilt in the scene between the Old School/Classic and the New Wave/Gen BDSM, and this is evident

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Professional Erotic Sessions

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All I know is that I’m a real Dominatrix. My intentions for professional sessions are usually quite different from most ProDommes… I want erotic pleasure. A lot of people think there is a big difference between a private session and a professional session, somehow as if the private session is better because real feelings are involved. I guess they’ve never gone to see a Dominatrix like Me before. Doing business for Me doesn’t diminish My erotic feelings. I feel just as much in my professional sessions as my private, and often even more because I am encouraged and inspired by

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Sessions in Everyday Spaces

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Even though dungeons and specialist equipment can be fun, they are not needed for organic play or Domination, and they are especially not needed if the Dominatrix is creative and innovative. Thus, I prefer to session in everyday settings – apartments, hotels, nature – to be flexible, to focus on natural Domination and dynamic, and to challenge myself. I have been sessioning in everyday spaces for over ten years in different countries. I’ve sessioned in 5-star hotels in major cities to cabins above the Arctic Circle. I’ve sessioned on isolated islands were nature provided the tools for torture, in a

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Why do I always use *him* to describe a sub?

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I’m pansexual. I can be attracted to anyone with an ass. I’m proudly part of the LGBTQ+ community and I respect the changes in our vanilla language to recognise, value and cherish everyone. But there is a clear reason for Me personally as to why I always use “him” in BDSM and Femdom to describe a submissive. Language reversal. Even though I support gender equality, which includes the recognition and use of appropriate pronouns, in My own Femdom language, which I am consciously and continually constructing, especially with text, I want to drill home that men, all men, are fully

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Femdom Event – Scene Narrative

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Si eres Mujer Dominante, el Club de Damas te invita a participar a una nueva noche FemDom. Como siempre, el ambiente será distendido y discreto, y tendremos la comodidad de un elegante local privado dispuesto para ello. Será impartido, una vez más, por una de nuestras integrantes, la Sra. Racy Wilde. Racy Wilde es una experimentada Dominatrix y estilo de vida como Domme. Tiene una filosofía y un estilo FemDom distintivos, y ha desarrollado su propio protocolo, técnicas y métodos a lo largo de muchos años, realizando sesiones con miles de parejas de todo el mundo. En este Seminario teórico

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To Be Ready For Pegging

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So, you want your ass to be ravaged? Well, this is a real world, no bullshit, reality: I’m in the big leagues. I use pegs that are too heavy for my strapon that I have to hold them up with two hands. Don’t be fooled by my pegs in pictures. Most are 20cm, and they are used for hardcore banging. I’m definitely an Extreme Queen – go big or go home. I have many years experience with hundreds of partners. However, I am also a beginner specialist. Firstly, if you don’t already play with your ass, especially when you masturbate,

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