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Mistress Travelling To New York City

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At the end of March to mid-April, I will be in New York, offering Exclusive Sessions for locals and visitors to the city. New York is an electrifying city that never sleeps, where every desire can be indulged, so I am rather excited to visit and experience what the city has on offer. I am available for pure sessions either in hotel rooms or dungeons, or secret public sessions (kinky tours through the city), being a companion to clubs and events, and open to receiving services such as chauffeur, food deliverer, shopping spree, city apartment ‘airbnb trade’ (where you move out

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Why Professional Femdom Is Appealing

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The interest in seeing a Professional Femdom can vary widely among individuals. Some appreciate the ‘no strings’, the anonymity, the proficient BDSM skills, and others, the professionalism. Which Femdom one sees largely depends not only on individual preferences and desires of the person, but also the attraction they have to the personality of a Femdom. Naturally, different people are drawn to different Femdom traits, but also, they are drawn to different personality traits of a particular Femdom. Here are some common reasons why someone might be interested in Femdom: Power Dynamics (and Role Reversal)Some people find excitement in exploring power

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Feeling Guilty About Seeing A Dominatrix?

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Ok, let’s get serious. There are many reasons why someone might feel guilty about seeing a Dominatrix. The most common reasons are they have a partner who doesn’t know, or it conflicts with their social identity, that investing in carnal pleasure is a ‘sin’ and means you are not a ‘respectable’ man. I have played with over 3000 people and have had conversations with tens of thousands more, many of which have had these concerns. The best way to know if BDSM and Domination with a Professional Dominatrix is for you is to make informed decisions that sustains your conscience.

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What Makes You Gay

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I still find people, especially heterosexual men, who don’t quite understand what being heteroflexible, bisexual and gay is. So I’m going to tell you. If a heterosexual man sucks cock, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man gets pegged, that does not make him gay. If a heterosexual man has a threesome with a woman and another man, that does not make him gay. So what makes a man gay? When a man is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to a man. The key word here is ‘attracted’. Attraction is desire. Gay men have sexual desires and

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BDSM Clubs in Madrid

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The truth is, the Madrid BDSM scene is still quite underdeveloped. It is largely due to the previous generation of politics, old cultural values, and lack of information. However, the people are hungry for knowledge and exploration. The level of practice all round is quite basic and often more focused on sex. High Protocol events are unusual and clubs don’t follow general international BDSM protocol, (such as not entering a play scene or cleaning furniture after your play has ended). Interestingly, there is a spilt in the scene between the Old School/Classic and the New Wave/Gen BDSM, and this is evident

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BDSM Humiliation and Erotic Degradation

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BDSM shot Emotional Masochist Kink • Embarrassment makes you feel uneasy and self-conscious for a moment. You can laugh it off. • Humiliation impacts your pride. You feel hurt and shame. You fight against it. • Degradation impacts your value as a human being. You feel inferior, defeated and powerless. You give up. For more, click to You Sure You Want Humiliation?

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Male Orgasm

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BDSM shot Did you know there are three different ways a man can orgasm? The Standard Orgasm – stimulation of the cock to ejaculation. This can be done externally via masturbation (hand jobs, vibrators, slaps, fleshlight) or internally via penetration (pussy, ass, mouth). The Immaculate Orgasm – stimulation of the body to ejaculation, without cock stimulation. This can be done through kissing, nipple play, pain, etc, and especially ass penetration. Many have experienced Immaculate Orgasms as a ‘wet dream’. The Assgasm – stimulation of the anus, rectum, or prostate to assgasm (anal orgasm). This can be done through anal sex,

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Erotic Pleasure

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BDSM shot What is erotic? Erotic does not mean sex, but sexual desire and arousal. Through words and images, Erotica conjures feelings of passion, titillation and thrill using suggestion and implicity. It is considered soft-core as opposed to hard-core and explicit sex. Erotica is more for refined palettes, indulging in pleasure and seduction.

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Professional Erotic Sessions

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All I know is that I’m a real Dominatrix. My intentions for professional sessions are usually quite different from most ProDommes… I want erotic pleasure. A lot of people think there is a big difference between a private session and a professional session, somehow as if the private session is better because real feelings are involved. I guess they’ve never gone to see a Dominatrix like Me before. Doing business for Me doesn’t diminish My erotic feelings. I feel just as much in my professional sessions as my private, and often even more because I am encouraged and inspired by

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Dominant or Primal

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BDSM shot What makes a man dominant in the bedroom? Most men think they are dominant in the bedroom, but they are not. They are being Primal. They let go to the moment with aggression and force, thinking that this is an expression of dominance. No. Being Dominant is about keeping control. Being Primal is about losing it. A man is Dominant when he is in control of himself; he lets go of the moment while being in control. It’s the paradox of masculine sensuality.