Books
Dominance / submission
As a Femdom Writer and Practitioner, I share my insights, methods and techniques to help people understand the real dynamics behind Dominance and submission. My work explores the psychology, ethics, and emotional design of Femdom—not as performance, but as a way of thinking, relating, and living.
OBEY YOURSELF FIRST - Your surrender begins with deep self-knowledge
Part one of How To Find Your Dream Domina - The No-Nonsense Guide
Obey Yourself First is the essential first volume in How to Find Your Dream Domina—a psychologically sharp, no-fluff guide for men who want more than porn-driven submission. If you’re curious about Femdom, craving deeper connection, or ready to step into your power as a submissive man, this book is your starting point. You’ll explore the difference between arousal and true submission, uncover your authentic orientation, and learn what dominant women actually seek in a partner. With emotional insight, archetype analysis, and practical reflection prompts, this book doesn’t teach you how to serve her—it helps you become the kind of man she’ll want to choose.
Femdom Philosophy
As a Femdom Philosopher, I write to help people understand the real dynamics behind Dominance and submission. My work explores the psychology, ethics, and emotional design of Femdom—not as performance, but as a way of thinking, relating, and living. For the first time, I’m sharing the insights, distinctions, and tools I’ve developed over years of practicing and writing about power.
FEMDOMSEXUAL - A Power-Based Orientation
An essay from the book: Authentic Female Domination
Femdomsexual is a bold and necessary essay that redefines female dominance not as kink or performance, but as a legitimate sexual orientation. Racy Wilde introduces Femdomsexuality—a power-based erotic identity rooted in relational dynamics, where desire flows through female power. Drawing on feminist theory, queer studies, and cultural analysis, Wilde argues that for some, Femdom is not a preference—it’s how they love, relate, and experience erotic truth. Blending clarity, rigour, and lived experience, this work challenges the marginalisation of Femdom and calls for its recognition as a core structure of identity. Femdomsexual is for Dominant women, for those who submit to them, and for anyone who senses that power—specifically female power—is at the centre of their desire.
THE POWER OF FEMDOM
An essay from the book: Authentic Female Domination
The Power of Femdom is a philosophical essay for those who already understand the basics of Female Domination and are ready to go deeper. Written for Dominas seeking authentic authority and for submissives who crave power they can trust, this work explores Femdom as a conscious, ethical, and relational practice. Drawing from feminist thought, cultural history, and lived experience, it reframes Femdom not as roleplay, but as a dynamic grounded in intimacy, responsibility, and erotic sovereignty. In an era where power is often viewed with suspicion, this book reclaims it as a source of transformation and connection—something to be chosen, cultivated, and lived with integrity.
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FEMALE DOMINANCE - A Sexual Orientation
An extract from the book: Authentic Female Domination
Female Dominance: A Sexual Orientation is an extract from Authentic Female Domination, a larger work exploring the structure and meaning of Femdom as more than kink, profession, or lifestyle. This essay makes a bold claim: for many dominant women, desire is not expressed through dominance—it is made possible by it. Drawing from history, theory, personal experience, and cultural critique, the piece reframes Femdom as a legitimate sexual orientation—one rooted in power, structure, and erotic agency. It examines how dominant female desire has been systematically pathologised or erased across psychiatry, sexology, and even within kink communities, and calls for a new language of sexuality—one that recognises control, structure, and sovereign desire as central to orientation. For those ready to rethink what sex, identity, and power can mean, this is both an academic intervention and a deeply personal reclamation.
Training and Play Tools
As a Lifestyle Dominatrix, I create tools to be used in training and during play sessions for both reward and discipline, to curve mindset and perceptions, strengthen dynamic, and develop certain skills for personal submissives. For the first time, these are available to the public.
STILETTOS
Grayscale Coloring Book
40 different grayscale stiletto images to bring to life. This coloring book is designed especially for adults who enjoy the art of play. Perfect for those who adore girlie high heels and color decorating. This book can also be used for discipline or reward in D/s power dynamics. Task your submissive to express their creativity, and develop their dexterity and color coordination.
ROPE FOR BONDING
Grayscale Coloring Book
40 different grayscale rope images to bring to life. This coloring book is designed especially for adults who enjoy the art of play. Perfect for those who adore girlie high heels and color decorating. This book can also be used for discipline or reward in D/s power dynamics. Task your submissive to express their creativity, and develop their dexterity and color coordination.
GODDESS FOOT WORSHIP
Grayscale Coloring Book
18 beautiful grayscale Goddess foot worship images to bring to life. This coloring book is designed especially for adults who enjoy the art of play. Perfect fr those who adore Gentle Femdom and color decorating. This book can also be used for discipline or reward in D/s power dynamics. Complete with gentle commands and a space to write a response. Task your submissive to express their creativity, while developing their dexterity and color coordination.
INKBLOT PROJECTIVE ACTIVITY
Grayscale Coloring Book
With 20 carefully selected inkblot images, this fun projective activity reveals a sumbissive’s unconscious thoughts, motives or desires.
This book is intended purely, for entertainment, to be used as a tool for different D/s dynamics. Ask your submissive to describe what they see in the ambiguous inkblot images. Analyse and interpret their answers according to your Domination philosophy and play motivations. It can be fun to reaccess a submissive’s preceptions, for example, after a month of chastity or a disciplinary impact session, to see their new responses.
GRAFFITI
Grayscale Coloring Book
40 different grayscale graffiti images to bring to life. This coloring book is designed especially for adults who enjoy the art of play. Perfect for those who love urban art and color decorating. This book can also be used for discipline or reward in D/s power dynamics. Task your submissive to express their creativity, and develop their dexterity and color coordination.
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Anal Training and Play for Complete Beginners by Racy Wilde
Humiliation Tools
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