So… I fuck first

No, I do not need to build a deep and meaningful relationship to fuck you. I just don’t have the time. I like to fuck many people, and a girl only has so many hours in the day to chat and get to know someone before she gets too horny.

So… I fuck first.

Yes, I’m unique… I seem to always go against the grain, completely contradicting conventional female wisdom. I’m an anarchist at heart and unapologetic about it. A lot of traditional Dommes are scared of me, or at least scared of what I represent – anarchy. I’m breaking the mould of what a Domme is and does. As I say on my profile: I am the new breed of kinkster, a hybrid who cannot be labeled or forced to comply to social BDSMism. This is a brave new world, baby.

So… I fuck first.

Physically connecting with someone, especially if my intentions are to have an on-going sexual relationship, is extremely important to me. I’m big into kinesthetic intelligence – I am turned on by it. I enjoy active bodies, bodies that demonstrate physical ability and awareness. For me, I need to feel a person’s body, feel how they move against mine, and see how they move through space before I decide to pursue a relationship.

So… I fuck first.

This does not mean I am not into emotional or cognitive intelligence – I love those too – but I need to be attracted to someone’s body as well as someone’s mind. A few times I have spent months getting to know a potential sub/partner, loving their personality, but when we got together there was no physical chemistry, no sexual attraction. I’m not willing to waste my time anymore. I’m a logician, so my decisions are based on reasoning, not emotions.

So… I fuck first.

I try to get to know someone as little as possible. Yes, that’s right. I’m not interested to learn about a potential’s life history and the meaning of their existence – that will come later, after our mind-blowing sexcapade. This week I literally wrote to a potential in a PM: “I’ll contact you when I know I will be in Oslo, but I can’t guarantee when. Until then, we’ll be on hold – I don’t want to get to know you too much…” But, what I do need to know before I fuck someone is their energy, their life force – the free soul is divine.

So… I fuck first.

As an insatiable Domme, sex is one of my tests before I will take on a sub. (Haha! See my post You Shall Not Pass). My subs need to sexually please me – I need to know they will – before I will even consider a serious relationship with them.

So… I fuck first.

Of course, many would think my sexual experiences with practical strangers are meaningless or valueless. Some are, if you’re the type to find no pleasure from velvety ice cream, sensual massages, the smooth tones of Ella Fitzgerald or a full bodied red wine. But I find that most my encounters explore the amazing human connection. At times I am humbled and inspired – in awe – by how strongly I can connect with a complete stranger. To have someone you’ve just met emotionally open up to you, trusting you, giving, submitting… it is no less powerful or valuable than a life-time lover.

So… I fuck first…

Many would think I will never find something long-term (which is mistakenlyseen as more valuable than fleeting relationships – ugh) with my promiscuous ways… On the contrary. Fucking first for me has lead to some amazing longterm relationships that are still as vibrant today as they were on our first fuck.

So… I fuck first…

I am finding I will need to write a lot of these types of entries to help people understand the New Age of thinking, feeling and being Domme.