I Don’t Need More

I’ve just spent a weekend with a submissive. We didn’t know each other at all. In fact, before we met I had never heard his voice, nor text-chatted with him in real time. Our communications were only every few days, a paragraph or two, with limited but direct information over two months. We played a little, which consisted of me… Read more →

A girl with a dragon tattoo

Saturday night at LFW was sure interesting… I arrived at the fet event stag. I had arranged to meet someone there and didn’t want the complication of arriving with one and going home with another. I wasn’t looking forward to standing alone… I’d much prefer it of course, being an introvert, but it meant I would be free game for… Read more →

No Under 21’s

Sorry boys but this is a rule I will not break for anyone. Lately I’ve been getting a lot of ‘legals’ but under 21’s contacting me. I have turned them all down simply because of their age. They always ask why and this is what I tell them: I exchange personal pornographic material with my play partners. Even though the… Read more →

Why you can’t find a Mistress…

I started writing this as a response to a question asked on a Femdom group about how a sub can attract a Domme. I’ve realised a lot of my points are in direct conflict with the protocols and etiquettes of the Pro-Domme Industry. The pomp and ceremony that might ‘titillate’* a Pro-Domme just doesn’t cut it with everyday Dommes. What’s… Read more →

So… I fuck first

No, I do not need to build a deep and meaningful relationship to fuck you. I just don’t have the time. I like to fuck many people, and a girl only has so many hours in the day to chat and get to know someone before she gets too horny. So… I fuck first. Yes, I’m unique… I seem to… Read more →

Origins of a Domme

  I get asked a lot about how I became a Domme and my go-to answer is… Evolution, baby!   The details, of course, are always long and in-depth, something I don’t have the time to express over and over again to subs who ask. Though, I do like to oblige because in this crazy world we all want to… Read more →

I am an Amazon

Every Domme has a unique domming style, but Dommes can also emulate particular stock personas, such as a Goddess, Queen, Mommy, etc. Even though I’m not into labels – I’m an individualist – quick references to such personas make it handy for other people to understand a particular woman’s dominance. I have been searching definitions and interpretations for Amazon Dommes… Read more →

His Power to Make Decisions

Being a Domme, I endeavor to understand my subs, their desires, kinks, motivations… But foremost, I want to know why they have this burning need to submit. Submission is not a quality I can find within myself, so in order for me to comprehend it, which in turn will make me a better Domme, I must depend on outside sources.… Read more →

Insights from an Ex-Finsub

When I was researching the world of Financial Domination, as I was considering a finsub’s offer to explore his fetish, an ex-finsub, Joe, got in touch and was very generous to share his journey with me. Joe, himself, had become addicted to Financial Domination. Eventually, he overcame it by extensive and expensive treatment with a professional addiction therapist. I saw… Read more →


Collaring has been made into the sign of ultimate submission in D/s relationships. It is perceived as one signing over their life to another for complete protection, care, and control (not necessarily love) and demonstrates the deepest level of commitment and trust. But I just don’t get it, and here’s why: When I began exploring who I am in the… Read more →